Now I can't retrieve your items or re-set your bed, but I can offer my hand to help you find things in this server they you WILL enjoy.
So if you're interested, let's set a time that you and I can get on (time zones and all) and work out what you want to achieve out of this server.
It may seem harsh at first, but there's lot of little things that are great.
For example,
Hundreds of people run different themed factions, and you can join most of them by just asking their officer. From there, you can work up their ranks is you work hard enough, or explore the many things they offer in those factions.
Some factions allow you to be miners, farmers, blacksmiths, or warriors.
Another example?
The beauty of role-play and the festivity of Regalia.
In Regalia (The capital Role-play city you first spawn to when in the Role-play server), you are introduced to many people using "text" to play characters. People have drinks at the bars, plan "sneaky" dealings, or even run businesses.
There are many different role-play characters on this server, and getting to know each one of them, working out where you fit amongst them if half the fun.
If you like building -
Many factions have creative servers, so if you happen to find factions that do, you can offer to build for them. They might ask you to design some things on their creative server first, and get it good enough to be implemented into MassiveCraft but the challenge of making something worth while that you can look back and say "HEY, I built this" is quite satisfying, and my favourite.
And if you need a hand, I can offer mine for some feedback, or you can ask the leaders of the faction (or builders) what they think of your builds.