Completely honest here, I think the way things are now (mandatory surrender terms, mandatory truce when surrender occurs,  no interfering in public peaceful RP events) is a decent balance, gameplay wise. The only issues I think really exist are perceived wrongs by pvpers against rpers and vice versa. The two sides need to accept each other and work together more to create their own balance and rules, and shouldn't rely on staff for everything.

 

The above is my slightly tired, soda-withdrawn brain trying to comprehensively function and work on a difficult topic.