I personally have not participated in these threads, although I did briefly skim over one like a week ago, but after I saw it was mostly raging about a war I didn't even really know much about at the time, I didn't get involved and left. However I think Grixer has a point in this, but so do others. Here, let me give some visuals-
Picture a group of kids playing a spirited board game, maybe risk, or monopoly. They get 'mad' at eachother, and I remember my friends and I, (we would play in groups of about 5) would go about forming alliances, and I would sometimes betray my allies at critical points, and conquer the land I promised them in exchange for the alliance. They would in anger try to launch a counter-attack at me, and sometimes get annoyed, but it was all fun and games for us and we had fun trying to kill eachother.
Now picture a group of teenagers playing call of duty, raging at eachother for stealing kills, hacking, or screen-looking(my friend always accused me of that when we did split-screen), and such. Sometimes my friends will literally start yelling at me if I do something wrong, and it annoys me, because it begins to ruin the fun.
We want board game enemies, not CoD enemies, if you know what I mean.